Comments on: Voyeurism, Peeping tom, being made to watch others

By: cindy stillman

cindy stillman — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 06:52:39 +0000

I just found out today, my daughters boyfriend of 3 years spied on my younger daughter in the shower. I keep wanting to think he was playing a practical joke on her with his camera, but he never said anything to her when she caught him. I’m in such a quandary as to how to deal with this. Any comments, much appreciated.

By: Clive

Clive — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 22:24:46 +0000

Thanks for your comment John.

By: John_Doe

John_Doe — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 18:23:05 +0000

I used to have this problem, and i was even caught by my best friend peeping on his sister about 6 years ago. I tried to lie my way out with a pathetic excuse, for some reason he acted like he bought it even though I know he didn’t. We haven’t talked about since and I was never confronted by anyone else about it. Oddly, the problem seem to just go away over the years and that impulse is completely gone, but I still feel pretty worthless knowing that I was invited into their home and betrayed their trust, not only that of the girl but the trust of my best friend and the rest of his family. I feel it’s made things awkward to say the very least.

By: Clive

Clive — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 21:55:59 +0000

Hi Clayton, thanks for leaving your comment, it took a while to get my client into a better space and it’s not a nice issue to go through – I hope you get through this ok.

By: Clayton

Clayton — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 00:57:42 +0000

i am currently struggling with this problem.

I know it’s wrong and sick yet it’s a terrible impulse to have and even worse than alcohol or drug abuse because it’s not just me that’s suffering but the people who’s privacy i invaded.

It’s an internal struggle, in my head and doing it has made me paranoid and reclusive on occasions over the years.

Leaving this comment on this website marks my finding the will to get rid of this sick habit that’s tearing me apart.

Thank you so much for writing this article, you’ve given me the strength.

By: Clive

Clive — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 17:48:35 +0000

Thanks for the comment Joseph, you’re the first person to brave leaving a comment about their experience of this subject, since this page has been up for over a year . . .

By: Joseph

Joseph — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 16:41:58 +0000

Thanks for writing this article. I had a voyeurism problem involving my neighbor before. My family certainly treated me different during my problem; it’s like they knew about it, but they would not speak of it. Many people do not know the challenges and pain that a voyeur goes through during their problem.

By: Nina

Nina — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 00:27:36 +0000

It sucks to have this kind of “voyeurism program” ruining one’s life. I’m not a lesbian, but I tend to look at women’s legs when they’re wearing shorts, mini skirts, short dresses, etc. I don’t know why I feel tempted/attracted (in a ‘sinful’ way) to look at them. Ironically, I’d be afraid of wearing anything that reveals my legs except when I’m on the beach. The simple act of wearing running shorts while jogging around makes me uncomfortable if I feel that I’m in a place where men are likely to look at my legs. I’ve seen women who keep wearing those revealing shorts and feel ABSOLUTELY comfortable and sexy wearing them. Either those Catholic teachings that “thou shall not display ‘tempting legs’ in public” is still on my mind or the compulsion is a deep symptom of something else.

P.S. I live in a predominantly conservative Catholic archipelago. Part of me hopes no one from my area sees this. I can already imagine people around me thinking I’m nuts. Ironically, lots of dysfunctional peeping toms exist in my country too.

By: Nina

Nina — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 14:28:32 +0000

I see…so cases like forced voyeurism and other debilitating patterns can start as late as 15 years old? (Sorry, for me it’s late because I’m only 22 years old. Fifteen still seems like recent to me.)

How old is the client who has resolve this issue? I bet I’ll be twice as shocked if I find out his real age.

Still, I can’t believe this page is the most popular one on this site. That I never even bothered to look at this page until I read more indicates something about me (presumably something unpleasant that I’m not aware yet).